• Clarissa Laws

#BOOKSHELFIE: THIS IS HOW IT ALWAYS IS

Updated: Dec 3, 2018

Welcome to the first book #shelfie post of the blog! I'm a big reader, so I am hoping that this becomes a post I can write regularly. I love when people share what they're reading with me and what they think about it, so I hope I can help you find your next great read! I wanted to start with my thoughts on a book that is currently trending: "This is How it Always Is" by Laurie Frankel. I tend to follow Reese Witherspoon's book club to choose my next novel, and she has yet to let me down if you need recommendations! Okay, so now for the book.

This is a book that caught me off guard! It was getting good press and Reese picked it, but I wasn't sure. This is coming from a girl who prefers her reads to keep her up at night not because they're thought provoking but because I'm legitimately afraid of what might be in my closet and which neighbor is a could-be-would-be-murderer. "This is how it always is" kept me up with my thoughts. In addition to being unbelievably poignant and sweet, a family story and a love story that a cynic amongst cynics could relate to, it brought up some big questions that I would like to say changed the way I see the world a little bit and very gently but also quickly made me into a better human. I was watching my little brother's dance performance just today and noted how each little boy escorted in a little girl, and each dance had a male/female role that was performed, indeed, by one male and one female. I found it troublesome and a little bit dated, and was sitting there asking myself: which one would Claude/Poppy (main character) be? Why can't we just choose which part of the dance we like the best and dance that one? Why is one part created for women and one for men? Can't we all just dance? ANYWAYS before I start ranting, this book was wonderful and it stuck with me in the best possible ways. It opened my eyes up to something that I hadn't previously thought a lot about, and left me feeling prepared to be a better citizen of the world. Even if this book isn't your genre of choice (it wasn't mine either), I think you have something to gain from this family's story and their ultimate triumph. It's touching without being overly sentimental, funny without feeling cheap, and provocative without feeling forced. Laurie Frankel has a beautiful voice, and one that I hope she continues to utilize to shed light on the parts of our fellow humans that may have needed a little bit more grace from us. I hope that Laurie Frankel continues to create works that may leave us asking the question "why isn't it beautiful enough to just be a person who wants to dance?"


XX, Clarissa